I Stand for Optimism
November 11, 2020
What I Stand For? I stand for optimism.
Sadly, medical malpractice cases are almost always catastrophic for individuals and their families.
When I meet my clients, they often are experiencing the darkest times of their lives. It’s hard for them, and it’s hard for me, not to become angry as we uncover the egregious errors made by health care providers, and their organization’s efforts to defend or sometimes even hide that malpractice.
It is easy and its natural to slip into pessimistic and vindictive feelings because I know the pain and misery my clients are enduring. I am sure people watching this video know other people who just want to lash out because they have been hurt.
This is the feeling I am talking about. As I watch the news, sometimes it feels to me like the world is slipping into an “I hurt therefore I want you to hurt” philosophy.
I can tell you from personal experience it takes conscious effort to stand for remaining optimistic in dark circumstances. My clients have really helped me see the best way through the darkness is to stay focused on the light.
Let me give you an example. I have a former client whose child was brain damaged during birth. The brain injury creates a trauma to the child during every transition. Time to stop playing… trauma…. Time to eat… trauma… time to stop eating… trauma….. Time to take a nap….trauma. It is awful, and it’s permanent.
The child’s parents have every reason to be angry every day of their lives. When I asked the mother how she deals with her anger, she told me she has a choice: To grieve for the healthy child she wanted or to celebrate the child she has. She chooses every day to celebrate.
What a wonderfully optimistic outlook! Sometimes I help my clients and sometimes my clients help me keep our focus on looking ahead, not back, moving forward, not backward, and being grateful, not spiteful. Each of us make these choices every day.
So as I connect with clients, and as I prosecute their cases, I ask myself: How can we move forward? How can we make things better?
None of us can change the past, but pursing their case, my clients can move forward knowing the truth and knowing the responsible have been held accountable.
My clients do their part to protect the very communities in which they live by forcing change in the policies and actions of their medical providers.
This is the long road. This is the optimistic path. This is what I believe. Optimism is what I stand for. What do you stand for? Let’s talk about it.